For a lot of people, anger and aggression isn’t something we feel 24/7, but rather it’s something that is triggered. It’s important to recognise what your personal triggers are so you can address the root of the issue. Knowing what triggers you personally will help you avoid or diffuse the situation in the future.
Some people might find that they only act aggressively when they’re intoxicated – if you find yourself getting into bar brawls or relationship battles whilst inebriated, you might want to lay off the hair of the dog. Cocaine and amphetamines, like alcohol, can increase irritability and decrease common sense. When intoxicated, you become more provocative and willing to express your thoughts and feelings without thinking about them first. If you are prone to anger, then being drunk or high will likely bring out the worst in you.
Hate is a chronic form of anger. Hate is not a sign of mental illness on its own, but psychiatrists, sociologists, and religious leaders would probably agree that it is rarely healthy. Persistent hate usually reflects a failure to utilise more constructive coping strategies to resolve angry feelings. Hate is often combined with prejudice, such that you hate individuals solely because of their membership in a larger group. Prejudices arise out of faulty thinking, attitudes such as generalisation, entitlement, resentment, and an unwillingness to consider evidence that challenges your beliefs. Nevertheless, nearly everyone seems to have the potential to develop prejudices.
You may find that being around certain people triggers feelings of anger. Personal relationships are the most fundamental things in our lives, and its important to surround yourself with people who bring light and positive energy into your life. If you find yourself continuously being angered by specific behaviours and people in your life, it’s best to either attempt to communicate your problems with them calmly, or limit your contact with them. The notion of “always being there for someone” is moot if it’s having unreasonable and unhealthy impacts on you as an individual. First and foremost, your physical and mental health comes first.
Tame the Temper 
Often when I get stressed or angry is when others begin to stress when stressing is not productive at all. This is usually at work, in the hospitality industry. I work at large functions and dinners where my supervisors will usually get quite stressed because of the pressured environment of the kitchen, everything coming out on time, and meeting the clients expectations. The supervisors stress will then come down on me, as I’ll usually be organizing the bar or the waiters. If I ever feel myself getting frustrated or stressed, I just remind myself that it is only temporary, and once the function is over, my stress will be gone.
This is a great example of how other people’s negative energies are projected onto those around them. It’s really good that you’ve been able to recognise what triggers those feelings of pressure, and even better than you’ve worked out a technique that helps you keep calm during these stressful situations. Thanks for sharing!